Stacey Shea

It is with great sadness and heavy hearts that we announce the passing of Stacey Ann Shea on Thursday September 7, 2023 at the too-young age of 52 while surrounded by her loving family. Stacey was born in the small town of Tottenville, Staten Island, the youngest of six children. She was a fun-loving woman with a big personality and even bigger heart. Anyone Stacey met was considered family. Stacey lived every day to the fullest with an unabashed sense of confidence and a contagious appreciation for life. She was proud of who she was and wouldn’t let anyone change her. She was the type of woman to jump on a motorcycle and have someone snap a picture of her, jump in a shopping cart and have someone race her around the store, and get into the cockpit to jump on the pilot’s lap for a photo op. Stacey Shea always did what she wanted and everyone allowed her to do it because of her infectious personality. She could talk you into doing anything with her and you would always walk away with a great story and fond memories. Whenever you were with Stacey she made you feel special.

Stacey took great pride in many things, namely her family, her infamous spaghetti sauce, and her endless pursuit of caring for others. Stacey Shea spent a large portion of her life providing care to those around her. From raising her three children who always made her beam with pride, to caring for her late parents when they were ill, as well as in her professional pursuits. Stacey was a caregiver at Bancroft, a nonprofit where she tirelessly cared for numerous individuals with developmental disabilities and/or brain injuries; her clients and coworkers loved her and she loved them. She would often be recognized for going above and beyond at work and was always thoughtful and generous.

Stacey Shea loved to cook, and often leveraged her skills to bring people together. Family, friends, and neighbors always knew when they came over they would find a loud, and laughter filled home with delicious home cooked meals, endless fun to be had, and unbelievable memories to be made. Stacey always sought a great time, and lit up every room she entered. Her and her beloved husband Jimmy were well known for their world-famous 30 Hampton Drive parties. There was always good food, great music, amazing people and somewhere to sleep.

She was fiercely protective of her family and friends, a wonderful Nanny to her grandson Cameron, and greatly enjoyed spending time with her dear friend Kenny who stood steadfast by her side along with her family during these difficult recent weeks.

In addition to countless friends, Stacey is survived by her sons James C Shea III, James Shea and daughter-in-law Lindsay Shea, her daughter Alexis Rae Nilsen and son-in-law Michael Nilsen, and her grandson Cameron James Nilsen. She is also survived by her sisters Pat Smith, Lynn Tyrell, Maureen Potts, Colleen Goldstein and brother Michael Ryan, in addition to countless brothers and sister-in-law, nieces, nephews and cousins. She is predeceased by her parents James and Betty Ryan, and her beloved husband/soulmate James C Shea.

She will be so dearly missed. We know heaven is not ready for her as she rolls through the pearly gates with her head out the sunroof. Grab somebody sexy tell ‘em HEY.